Good Reads: How to Love Yourself (and Sometimes Other People)

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First of all, how great is this title.  The (and Sometimes Other People) makes me laugh every time I think about it.  That’s exactly how the whole book is: funny and relatable .  Lodro Rinzler and Meggan Watterson manage to give wonderful insight into love and life.  They write in a way that seems more like a conversation between friends than a spiritual advice book.  Reading this made me want to have coffee with them – the two of them just seem like a good time!

We’ve all felt not good enough at some point in our lives, maybe even today!  In the world we live in, we’re barraged with messages telling us that to be adequate we need this product or that.  We’ve bought in to the idea that we aren’t good enough as we are.

“Either way we are grappling with something that is prevalent in society: self-doubt.  Instead of embracing who we are, we give in to societal whispers telling us we’re not good enough, lovable enough, or desirable enough.”  – Lodro

It’s time to reject this way of thinking for a more positive approach to life.  Self-love is the key to being joyful and present as we become more compassionate towards others.  Plus, happy people are often viewed as more attractive.  Win-win.

“I can’t overestimate the importance of accepting ourselves exactly as we are right now, not as we wish we were or think we ought to be.” – Tibetan Buddhist teacher Pema Chödrön

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When we accept and love ourselves as we are, we free ourselves from the compulsive need to compensate for our feelings of inadequacy.  We no longer have to “look to alcohol or drugs or romance or online shopping to make us feel good about ourselves.” And we’re able to “realize those aren’t lasting solutions.” – Lodro

Once we learn to love ourselves, we’re infinitely more capable of loving others.  Whether in a romantic or platonic fashion, your heart is able to be more compassionate.  It’s kind of like the golden rule learned as kindergarteners.  Treat others as you want to be treated.

On a certain level there’s actually no difference between self-love and love of another.  To love another is to love ourselves.  And we are to do this not because of some external prompt.  We are to love and be loved simply because this is what we are here to do.  – Meggan

This book is worth the read for single and committed people alike.  I’m already looking forward to reading it again in a year or so!